tired of trying...

[Swiss Miss]

I'm so sorry for you and your kids. Your H sounds like mine only much more out of control. It's always my fault he's not happy, never his own. I have to say I've been really happy and at peace for the first time in years since he left, but it was hard to give up on the M because he is a good father to our son and he misses his dad terribly.

As for worrying about him alone with your kids, a lawyer friend told me to write everything down after it happens, with the date, so I will have a journal if I ever need it for a judge to see. Of course you have this thread going already.

It's good your MIL was understanding, but by the time he's done telling her why everything on earth is your fault and you're the worst wife ever she may change her mind. That happened to me and I still can't believe that after over 15 years of knowing me my MIL thinks the entire problem was me. I hope that doesn't happen to you, but it sounds good so far.