My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[nicole8]

Actually I do pity him.....because I know he is a lost soul just roaming around. He has pretty much told me that he does feel lost and wishes someone would tell him what to do. He used to turn to his Dad for support or guidance. The reason I do pity him is that I know he is missing his Dad and his Dad is the one who would have the most disgust for what he is doing. He would not be staying at the all-inclusive resort (MIL's house) and being enabled to do what he is doing. His Dad would have been very firm with him about what he is doing.

I am trying to see him differently and have been for awhile....weird but true and I do know that he does a very heavy conscious (sp). The counselor did not give me any ideas on how to do this. Darn her! I have also read a book and will be re-reading the book about how to talk with someone who is depressed.

The db counselor asked another question I thought was interesting and just now remembered. She asked again, to pretend I was my husband and if she asked him "how would Nicole describe you"? What would he say.