Originally Posted By: SpyBunny
Thank you everyone, your encouragement means a lot.

I will refer to SD's letter as a motivational tool, it's a lot better than anything I could have put together. DLS- I was a little confused about why you said you were initially upset with me, I don't understand what you meant by putting my stbx through the wringer. That certainly wasn't my intent. I feel like I'm being out through one though; the longer this goes on, the more it hurts financially because I'm not getting any temporary spousal or child support from him. I only brought in 25% of our gross income but I have close to half the bills, and my savings are getting depleted.

I know I need to just expect temper tantrums from stbx from now on, that's two that he's put in writing now! I didn't see anything in his email that moves our discussion forward, and it felt like just another sucker punch. I had no idea what to do with it- I couldn't argue back with him in person, and I still have trouble even in writing.

I spoke to my atty today, and composed the following little response which hopefully gets us back on track:

STBX-

I have read your response to my counter-proposal, and want to express my concurrence in us both being reasonable. I just wanted you to know that I based my counter on what I could reasonably expect from a judge reviewing our case and sweetened it somewhat for you, numbers were not simply pulled out of the air. Your reply to my counter, however, did not identify those areas which you felt were unreasonable. Therefore, please indicate those items with which you disagree and submit a counter to my counter so we can move forward.

Thanks,
Bunny


Bunny,

I did not read your situation and jumped on the thread. After reading your situation and realizing how much time you spent, I think everything your doing is right on time.