I would listen to the DB coach. You are in a good place to begin communicating with your H again. Like everyone has said, don`t do what doesn`t work.
When you do meet with H, pretend he`s your friend, treat him as you would a friend. Relax and look great!! Remember not to have an R talk, this may scare him away. Discuss what you need to, keep your cool, and have zero expectations.
