The look in the eyes of a MLC'er is akin to the "deer in the headlights" look...it is odd. The LBS also shares that look..it is a look of shock, disbelief, and it's unsettling to see.

I had a picture that was taken in 2001 when my husband's dad died, and that look was captured in the pic...he looked like a crazy man, quite literally.

I'd always heard the eyes were the windows to the soul, and I believe that.

So, OW belongs to the Pentecostal, or Holiness faith? Huh, when did Jesus revise the teachings concerning adultery? I don't think so!

Those are the ones who do not believe in the women wearing pants.

I was raised in the Pentecostal faith as a child; didn't wear pants until I was grown. I still hold to many of the beliefs, but I no longer ascribe to a certain faith/religion.

Many times during MLC, the MLC'er will "twist" religion into many shapes and forms, claiming the Lord "brought us together," in an attempt to condone the affair.
And GOD had NOTHING to do with it..true, He has His hand in all things, good and bad, but truthfully, God and sin CANNOT coexist in the same room/body. One or the other has to go.
That is nothing but a lie of the devil, in order to justify adultery.

It ALWAYS makes me angry when people try and use religion to justify their actions which are clearly WRONG!!

I've seen so many people suffer consequences for many wrong actions and they wonder why God allows bad things to happen to them...what, like they are special or something?

Yet, when bad things happen to good people, I've often heard it said that so and so was sinning and got punished....when that clearly wasn't the case.
Each of us know our situations, and God knows our situations..and we KNOW if what is happening is because of our sin or not.

I was so afraid that I was being punished for something I did; yet knew I'd done nothing wrong.

Most of the time it will fall under the heading of the innocent suffering at the hands of another..and the person administering the suffering will pay consequences.

I came to understand that being a Christian does NOT mean my suffering ends; if anything it INCREASES. Every trial is set before me to help me grow in wisdom, understanding and strength.

It is not what we endure, it is how we endure it..our attitude is a major thing in this.

The strength I gained can be gained by ANYONE..it is not mine, exclusively; therefore it is accessible to ALL.

The only way to come to the end is by going through the trial..no shortcuts allowed. smile

I can hand out tool after tool after tool, but it is not up to me to complete the course; it is up to the people I give the tools to.

The Lord Himself could not MAKE me endure, nor could He FORCE me to go through and learn what I did; I had to decide to do that, acting upon His gift of free will given to ALL people. Because I ALLOWED Him to help me, He gave me the tools, and left it up to me to learn how to use them as an individual.

More than any other time in my life, my husband's MLC really taught me what God was all about, and in turn, it increased my understanding of Him.

And, most of all, I'm thankful for having had this experience; without it, I would not have learned all I needed to learn throughout.

Guess I got to preaching, and kinda forgot where I was. LOL!!

Getting off my soapbox now, LOL!!

Have a good one. smile

Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.