Your wife has seen and heard about the positive changes in you. She has not made positive changes. She has proceeded with the "addition by subtraction" approach to her life.
She attempts to justify leaving you because it allows her to put a positive spin on what she's done - perhaps the only positive that she can put her finger on right now.
There is an old line that goes, "The best revenge is a life well lived." Now I'm not suggesting that you have or should be trying for revenge for what your wife has done. But I do think that when any of us can reach the point in our lives where we are truly prospering again, it's an amazing thing. Suddenly the bleakness of those early days of separation, those first post-bomb days, they just don't seem quite as dark and frightening.
You are thriving because you chose to move forward and claim your life back. It's the most important thing that ANYONE who comes to this site can do for themselves. If there is any magic pill in DB'ing, this is it.
I don't want to do anything to distract you from where you are because you are currently in such a strong and healthy place. So please read my next words with a healthy grain of salt and then ignore them...
Your wife is impressed by you. She is noticing you. And part of her is a little bit miffed that this version of you is appearing now. And eventually she is going to move in your direction again.
That will be a really big test for you Bill.
Blessings,
the other Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
