O.K. got some real questions here now. Had another good day at inlaws yesterday, W came over with kids and had a good time. She calls today and wants to talk. We meet at my place and she tells me that she still loves me and doesn't want me to think that she just walked away from our marriage. She doesn't like to be away from the kids or have them have to grow up in a broken home. I don't like the idea of step-dad and she doesn't like step mom. She just doesn't really feel anything for me. She doesn't know if she wants to work on us. I would say that I am in a very similar place. I do love her. I enjoy her more than I have in many years. I have seen her change drastically in our 6.5 month separation. I told her that if we do work on us, it will take a long time to really see if what we can have together will be fulfilling. I said it could be a year or more before we can really tell. She doesn't want to move back in, to which I agree. I think it would just create confusion for our kids unless we really know what we are doing.
I think that if we did work on us, I would want the end result to be a marriage where we fill complete physically, emotionally and spiritually. Anything less would be a reason where I think we would just be better off divorced. I see our children as a great reason to try to work on us, but absolutely no reason to stay together if that is all we have.
I guess my questions are : Is the way we feel normal? For those that have completed piecing, is your marriage everything you ever wanted? What would be a good way to proceed with our situation? I think we both know that we are going to be fine regardless of what happens with us. We are enjoying our lives without each other. We just don't want to look back with any regrets.
