I hope you handle your news better than I did when I got mine. Lessons learned and all that...


So this will be a pretty stiff test for you Eric. How do you do the right thing in the face of a pending divorce action?


Many decisions will be coming your way, especially if your wife chooses to aggressively pursue this divorce. As I believe Kerry pointed out, just reading the divorce complaint can easily push any of us to an action that we will later regret.


Without the focus on you and the truly important things in your life, it will be easy to let the "little boy" voice inside of you lead you astray.


Your mistakes do not require that you now sacrifice yourself at the altar of her divorce.


At the same time, a man of integrity and noble character does not seek to punish just because a wounded person makes the decision to punish him.


Your question...the one you should ask yourself every time you are confronted with some of the ugliness of this process...is a simple one.


What is the right thing to do?


The extremes are to fold and capitulate to her every demand, or to fight back tooth and claw to give back to her every difficulty she gives to you.


The right thing to do will lie somewhere between those two extremes.


The issue is NOT what response will appeal to her - I hope that by now you would not fall in to THAT trap. She is not really the issue here at all. You cannot control her decisions/actions and I think you are well aware of that by now.

But nothing you do as you navigate your way through this thing holds the potential for permanent damage as long as you choose to do the RIGHT thing.


Right is never wrong. Even if a troubled person ACTS like it is wrong.


I'm sorry for the pain this brings to you and your family.


At the same time I can't wait to see how the man you are becoming will use this horrible situation to shine.



Blessings,

Bill

Last edited by Bworl; 04/19/10 11:35 PM.
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