Ken. How long did you two date before you got married?
Expect it to take THAT LONG for her to REALLY want to work on this marriage. She can play you all she wants, but her commitment is with OM for months and months... and she sees him regularly still yes?
If it took you one year to get from first meeting to marriage, expect it to take a year before she wants to think about you as a husband again.
She may play and leave you with false impressions, and you WILL fall for them, but her head is with OM for the next 12 months or so...