About seeing your H differently, right now you see him as a scum bag that left you so he can have an EA, which I understand and agree with you, but maybe think about him as a hurt soul. Remember he is using the EA to medicate his depression just like if he used drugs or alcohol to do the same thing. Think of him as someone with a problem that you would like to help, but he is not ready yet. Every time he does something stupid just remember that he has a disease because he does and maybe then you will gain some compassion for him and won't hold all the resentment that is bound to build through this process. As I said before, read up on depression and be ready when HE IS READY! Don't force him, but be prepared so when he does turn to you, you have suggestions not the forced answer.
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