Detaching is not ignoring, Allen. It's allowing yourself emotional and sometimes physical space to deal with the problem. For the record, my H is an alcoholic and I live with him. You don't always have to kick them out. You seem to advocate such extreme positions. Extremes are not always necessary.
If your H is managing his alcoholism by going through a program or trying to manage on his own with you helping him that's fine... but Pass' Husband is NOT managing, he's not acnowledging... he's cheating on her just to make things that much worse.
Pass, you shouldn't and your kids shouldn't have to come home to dog crap in your home and stranded children... THAT is not soemthing you should have to live with and I don't think its something anyone on this forum should be advocating you living with either.
I go extreme when addicts go extreme and mismanage their problems. If they can manage, that's great, but that is not happening here.
