Talked with DB coach today. She understands that H is in MLC but she thinks that being almost totally dark is not working. She thinks it was good for ME, to get to the point I am now. She said that when I withdrew and went dark, that it seems that he has withdrawn farther. He was offering that if we needed anything, to please call, he was seeing the kids more often and since Good Friday, he has only seen them once and has not called them at all and dumped my daughter off early to go ride bikes with "work friend". It does seem like since I pulled away, he has pulled away farther too. I NEEDED to and am glad that I did but, he NOW it seems he is pulling farther away from his kids.
She wants me to set up a meeting with him to discuss a having a visitation schedule with the kids and to also discuss that they will be left alone during the day all summer and what should WE do about this?
She wants me to try and get him here as much as possible, fixing and doing things...it would be time away from OW....and would be a good opportunity to mention what his intention is with all his stuff as if we have to sell the house, he will need to either move it or put it in storage as it will look better less cluttered.
She also said to ask about making arrangements to get the truck back home....she thought that would be enough for now...
She said that so far...he is not really feeling any of the consequences of the choices he has made yet, he is living pretty good and that does make sense to me...he is still cake eating in a sense.
I welcome any thoughts!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
