I asked, "Did you purposely wait until I wasn't at home?"
He said, "It's just how it worked out but Mondays are my day off so I will probably come get stuff on some Mondays"
Respond, don't react. Text less right away. He DID give you a valid reason for being there at that time.
You are still married. He didn't abandon you, he separated. There's a big legal and emotional difference.
Don't let your opportunity pass you by. WHY are you angry? Look for the solvable reason, not the anger. The emotions are up to you to control. Maybe in that anger is a need that you and he have not tapped into, yet.
Wouldn't it be nice to have the IC's home number for immediate service!
Consider: Why does he have to call first? He saw you naked and you saw him the same way. This is a person you love. Let your love help you tonight, not your anger Number 8. If he wanted you to prove the marriage is no good - what a nice way that would be to have you spewing demands.
It sounds like fear, not a violation. How would you feel watching him take himself more from your life? Do you think he loves taking it from under your nose? Give him some credit - he did/does love you and you love him. There must be some good somewhere.
Emotions are right or wrong. let him know with your good side how you felt. What you thought that meant. Remind him how much you think a better understanding of him and yourself could make your M a very happy place to be.
Changing locks maybe against the law. Even if it weren't, imagine what that tells your H. It says, "you're gone, I don't even trust you". Why would he work on that kind of R?
DO NOT feel guilty about your feelings - you are feeling them. Just try your hardest to master them. I know from my experience that words said are so much harder to pull back when the R is in a bad state. Unless you really have decided you hate him, then do what Boxer did to your property instead of doing it to the man you married.
If you want him to turn back and look at the M again, you need to give him hope, too. One day, if things do work out, be sure that he will thank you deeply for your olive branch during the storm.
