Thanks guys! Haven't been on for awhile. Just busy I guess.
So here's the funny thing - regarding the whole DBing thing about making changes for yourself...
W said to me yesterday that I'm completely different now. Happy, alive, engaged, better relationship with the boys, talkikng to the neighbors, etc. She had a friend say to her that the 8 years we've lived in that house, she's never seen me, now she sees me all the time out in town. Funny.
And where it seemed that not too long ago I couldn't get out of bed or focus on everything, now I'm running this household, taking care of the kids, doing my job, etc. This weekend I started taking apart some of the entryway to the house because the wood was rotting, without much reservation about taking on a moderately involved home-improvement project.
Anyway, so I kind of said to her, well what about that? And she said - that she thinks she enabled me to be unhappy. Whatever issues she had with me in our R - she thinks that she's the cause (or at least the catylist), and that our dynamic just doesn't work.
Well, how's that for DBing. Anyway, that's OK, not expecting or hoping to put the M back together now, I am pretty happy at the moment. And W and I are actually in a good place with talking and working together.
Anyway... triplet mom has brought her kids over a couple of times to play with my twins; she asked me to look after her 16-year old for a week while they're out of town. This all has made STBX extremely angry. She's basically writing off triplet mom as her friend at this point, this has made her so upset.
