Need a pick me up

[pearlharbr]

Puppy, I'm already heading to Vegas next month. Shall we organize a DB cocktail party?

Burt, I thought that was a major issue for her. Financial security is huge, especially for moms. Did you validate her feelings? Involving her more in the finances is a great idea. I know that I didn't have a clue about our finances and understood better once I finally saw the numbers. Plus if she knows when and how much money is coming in it may alleviate some of her mood swings.

Why did you lie to her about graduating college? When you find out your partner is a liar it undermines everything. If you didn't fully discuss it and resolve it at the time I get why she would doubt you ever since.

There's a difference between loving detachment and cold detachment. I know because I totally failed at the former early in my sitch. Giving her space still needs to exist in a warm, loving environment.

Please, please, please refrain from anything that seems paternal (telling her to sit down, patting her head). You are not her father, do not treat her like your child. If you don't like how she is acting, tell her calmly and walk away. If you want respect then treat her with respect as well. Assert and enforce boundaries as necessary but not punitively.