So I'm back--apparently I cannot do this on my own. I need some help before I permanently damage our kids. No matter how our marriage works out, they deserve much better than what they have right now.
Maybe the first question you need to answer is why don't you yourself believe what you wrote?
If you really thought your kids deserved better, you would have left your H or stopped letting him yell at you or the kids.
Why don't you think you deserve better?
Once you get than answered, everything else is a piece of a cake.