Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Update on my sitch. I haven't posted much because I needed a break from here...got to take a break from thinking about my sitch. I also don't know what else I can say or do at this point other than to keep doing what I'm doing and remain patient.

Things are the same. W and I are friendly, no arguing, communicate frequently, no R talks, etc. Yea, limbo land. I hadn't heard from her since last Wednesday when we met to sign the listing agreement to sell the house. She cried after we signed. I emailed her later to make sure she was ok and didn't hear from her until yesterday. I didn't want to pressure her. I gave her space as I know it was difficult for her to put the house for sale. I just waited for her to contact me. She emailed me last night and thanked me for thinking of her. She said it is hard for her to sell the house but it's the right thing to do. I don't know how to take her comments. I think I did ok with asking her if she was ok and perhaps I was as she thanked me for thinking of her. I also think it's good that she is able to be honest with me that it is hard for her to sell the house. Who knows?

Every day I try not to make this about me (what I want) and keep in mind that she needs space (keep it about my W and her feelings). However, some days it is hard. I do see positives and that is good. I continue to be positive with her and give her space. I also cotninue to work on me and remain consistent with my changes. Her birthday is in two weeks so that brings up the question of how to handle it.

Yesterday she also asked me how the open house went. I replied back that it went well and gave her the update. Frustrating that she didn't respond to my email update to acknowledge it. That's ok, at least she initiated the contact and especially since it was the first contact after our meeting last Wednesday to list the house. That waa a tough night for her. I told her that she means more to me than any house. She knows how I feel and that I'm here for her in any way I can be.

I'd like to ask her to lunch for her birthday but don't know if that's a good idea. This friendliness is great but at some point we need to talk. I don't want to push her but this waiting is not helping address the issues in our sitch.

That's all for now. I guess I'll continue with the status quo for now.