Actually Mila....My H and the OW broke up alot! He would tell her he wanted to come back to me. But the last time, she broke it off with him. She asked me a question by text....and I answered it honestly. She couldnt trust him. Basically that was it. She couldnt trust him NOT to leave her for me. Kinda like what I went through because he kept leaving me for her. BUT, I had more invested than her and I wanted to stick it out if I could. I knew she was just a symptom for his MLC and that she would soon pass. This OW has since gotten remarried AND divorced that guy. I feared she would come back wanting my H when that happened, but it didnt. She no longer is friends with my H at all and he doesnt like to be around her. It took alot for them to get to that point.

The best advice I can offer is to just be his friend. Maybe not his best friend, but a friend. My H told me that was one reason he wanted to come home. I was the only one who remained a friend to him through all this mess, me, the least likely person to be his friend.

Keep living like he isnt coming home. Just be his friend. He said he wants to work on things, well, let him in his own time. I know its hard. But if this is what he wants, maybe he will soon figure out how stupid he is being, like my H finally admitted to being!!

Kissak

"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3
M-37 H-37
S-10, D-15
M- 1993
First bomb- 12/23/06
Came and went too MANY times!
Gone again 10-25-10