It seems like you are not getting through to him with words. Have you tried a letter where you state your needs in a simple way that he can absorb without feeling the flood of guilt and shame and overwhelm that likely happens when you talk about this together? Perhaps give him the option of writing back to you?
Brainstorming here.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
