please don't think about what you did or didn't do wrong. You are at a point were dwelling on those things could cause you to slide back to a point you don't want to be.
I think that one HAS to think about these things....
That is how you grow and learn, ( hopefully)....
To own your feelings, you must feel them all....
Mistakes are only mistakes as long as you learn from them and don't repeat them....
If they are repeated, then they are no longer just a mistake, they are a part of one's internal character.....
Dwelling on them and owning them are two different things IMO..
This is what I meant by ringing a bell that you didn't want to ring....
Part of the learning curve that you have been on Eric, is how YOUR reactions have rung some of the bells that have been rung.
Your reaction to this should be different, because of who you are now ,as opposed to who you were in the past..
Every interaction is an opportunity to be the man you have become and want to be....
There are many great people here who have "been served" papers...
IF you believe it is the end of life as you know it....
You are mistaken.....
Bart, I respect your opinion , I also will agree to disagree with you ....
Question for you ?
Do you feel it is beneficial to Eric ,to move forward with Eric, without some sort of gauge as to how HIS reactions , caused a domino affect to other reactions ?
And how , that in the future, his reactions could be different ?
If he does not feel this, and process this...
Then he has made no mistake and it will be repeated in future relationships...
Not just the filing of papers...
Just his reactions in general....
We learn to NOT repeat mistakes in history , be reading about them, or seeing them first hand....
IF we do them again, then we truly have not learned....
ANY...relationship in the future deserves this work..( and that includes one that MAY be with your current spouse )
