Moving on with my life #2

[25yearsmlc]

You only have a "good deal" if you don't let it dictate and ruin your life. From your posts, (which admittedly might be slanted for venting here, but hey, it's all I have to go on), your life is controlled by: his whims, his fb posts to or about others, his texts, some OW, his showing up to see baby late or on time, or his not showing up, the terrible communication, the way he looks at you, what he says or does to you, or to others, or about you, or what you think he might be saying or doing to others, or saying about you, the child support he somehow "has to" drop off in person, AND only whenever it suits him, his excessive drinking, his drinking and driving, his rude behavior, his odd behavior, and or his version of the "truth," or your m history...you get my point.

It's a bit ironic to see you describe it as a "good deal", in light of all this, & the tone of nearly all your posts. It frightens me that only a few months ago, your goal was a recon with this man.

I mean, maybe if you took charge of things in your life more, planned a future for yourself, truly GAL, didn't seem like a victim, then it could be an "alright deal". But I fail to see how it's a "good one". Is it b/c your attorney doesn't have to do anything, or what? Don't rock the boat, but the boat is damn rocky on its' own. I mean, what would be worse, realistically (not in your nightmare, but in reality). That he would get baby more often? Like I said, is that realistic? He barely sees her now. Is this approach, this situation, how things are, really working for you?

He doesn't pay the CS in full often, let alone on time. And for no apparent reason, he delivers it to you in person, even with his track record and with all this time passed. Honestly S2, do you thank him for it? So, and I mean this sincerely, what am I missing here? This guy was arrested for DUI so no one wants him driving baby around. Got it. What is it you fear would be worse if he were to feel "more hatred and venom"?
Weird- rude behavior? Isnt' that more or less what you get now? And see the above reasons for how this isn't a "good deal". But again, maybe if your approach to it shifts dramatically and only you can do that, it'd be different. Maybe it'd be an "alright deal"....I am confused.
good luck
j