I am little less calm now. Wife just left my apartment - she stopped by after her counseling session. She always tells me about her sessions.
The good news is that her counselor told her that he didn't think a divorce was a good idea. The bad news is this didn't have much of an affect on her.
The counselor also told her that he would not continue her EMDR therapy if she didn't have a support person in her life (that's me at the moment).
During her visit we talked. I told her (again) that I don't know how I will act once the divorce happens. I told her I would like to be there for her but cannot make any promises.
I asked her to explain why she'd be okay living with me post-divorce but not as a married couple. She explained that she feels sexually obligated to me if we are married (the counselor advised her to avoid all sexual contact while in therapy).
Its all very strange and frustrating.
Your lucky because most of our WAS do not feel "sexually obligated" to us at all. As a matter of fact many of us go cold turkey during a spouses affair session.
