Show of hands - expose or not - success stories

[JacT]

I am sure whilst the kids are not'technically' Pass's I am sure she feels the same way any mother would.I think Allens advice in getting the IL's to tell them is reasonable and it shows you are still there for them.The innocent victims in all of this is the poor kids.
Pass go with your motherly instincts.If you think he is in MLC he is,if you think he is an alchoholic he is.He is your H you know him better than anyone..Anyone including OW. she only knows made up version. You post where you like..if you are happy with the advice.
I think in A there are two choices no matter what the sitch:
1. On exposure does H want to make amends Yes/No? Do You? Yes/No
If the answers are same great if not then you detach.GAL and look after yourself and your kids.Its not their fault their dad an idiot right now.
2. Does he run to be with OW Yes/No? Do you still want him yes/no?
If the answers are different detach, GAL and look after you and your kids.

If he is in MLC he may or may not come out of the fog and if he does he may like the new choices, he may not and try to reconnect.
You still detach, Gal and look after you and the kids.

If he goes with OW the R may or may not work.He may move on or he may want to reconnect.
You detach, GAL and look after yourself and the kids.

No one knows how long these A's can last whether MLC or not.They are all highly addictive and the OP are parasites, needy, crazy.They ambition is to destroy.
Am I making this too simple no matter what space H is in, in general the approach is generally the same for Pass???
If the detach yadayada doesnt work then a change of strategy is needed.If PASS does not do this she will crack and we will need to take some responsibilty for that having given her advice???

No?