I spent at least a year of my life blaming myself for what went wrong in my M. You share responsibility in the destruction of your M. You don't own it. This is a 50/50 proposition.
The trap we can fall into is that we try and own it because that makes it easier to fix. Once you accept that you only own your share you have to let go of the other side.
Your first post on this thread was excellent. Do not let this action force you to recoil and start blaming yourself. Maybe you has something to do with the escalated D time line; maybe you didn't. No one can answer that question.
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09