Was he angry because of the motorcycle? Is there a way he could pay for it (borrow from parents?) and keep it? These would be good ways to show your intent.
Coincidentally, Number 8 posted something about the victim role that my IC went through with my last Thursday. Relationships Explained
The key that stuck with me is that if one person is the victim, they're actions push the other to be a "resucer" or a "bully". If you find and do the better way to respond, that can help them choose a better way to act (instead of playing victim), but they must choose to.
Maybe you can pass on the URL for him to investigate with his IC. I think if my IC had not gone through this with me on Thursday, I would have gone through with a complete separation as my W requested on Friday.
Little things can make big changes.
However you respond, try to keep in mind that MOST men react this way, and that you feel that your H isn't acting like himself at all (depression, whatever).
Try to deeply examine the man. Is there enough there you really love that you could love again if he went back to it (or better)? My IC said that if you do things 'right', and you are sure, you give it time for change to occur, then if you are not satisfied enough, then you consider the R and if it is healthy.
