Guys, stop the debate. It doesn't matter what she labels whatever is going on with her H. The only thing that matters is that Pass DETACH! asap, change her communication patterns and GAL.
Pass, I would confront your H asap about his behavior with his kids this weekend. I had to do that several times with my H. It is not acceptable that he treat his kids like that no matter what he thinks about your M. I would also let his D tell him what an a$$ he's being.
Besides getting the book I recommended (relationship rescue) and still do, I would check out some Al Anon meetings in your area. Even if you don't think that your H drinking doens't rise to that level, the meetings are all about detach, focusing on yourself, etc., very complimentary to DB. I went almost every day while my H and I were separated. It was very helpful to keep my mental clarity. You don't have to talk. You can just listen. It's amazing how similar the stories are.
