Is it really possible to regain love and trust when so much has been lost?
from what i've read, it is possible and that it is a long process.
you have to be willing to forgive the past be able to look beyond all of the hurt you have to be okay with letting them go this is where i have the most difficulty i have to wrap my head around the fact that detaching doesn't mean you stop loving the other person you have to step back and let the other person figure out stuff on their own you have to be willing to give him/her as much time and space to figure things out in the meantime, i also have to figure things out as well if h and i were to reconcile, i have to be baggage-free which means letting go of the hurt, resentment, and anger if i try to reconcile with all of my baggage, it won't work and i'd be back here again it's easier said than done and it takes time a lot of time and patience use the forum when you feel like you are in panic mode but the best way to combat panic mode is to GAL
the last two success stories have been posted by women. and they describe what their hs were going through during the turbulent times. it was common for them to bail when they were faced with an unhappy marriage it gives me some insight and comfort in understanding what is possibly (not 'exactly') going on in my h's head.
i don't know what a female would do or whether they go through the same thought process.
