LOL I have to read that book some time, Wii. But, I don't advocate "kick ass" so much, because Paul also says that "if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness." (Galatians 6:1) So, while, I would not expect our spiritual leaders, such as Hmama's ex-pastor, to ostracize her XH (although, according to Paul, it is an option), it would be incumbent upon him to "restore him". How that looks? I dunno, but I don't think standing back and doing nothing is it (except pray, which I am sure is part of it). And then to withhold assistance/friendship/fellowship to the one's who have been injured just blows me away. As a friend, he shouldn't take sides, but as a pastor, he should take the side of the injured, the one who did not sin within the marriage, not blatantly cut her off, and then allowing the process of the adulterer gaining priesthood.
Anyway, Hmama, you are doing awesome now, no thanks to that pastor. It goes to show you that if your XH could be a leader in a church, then I just wonder at how the process works (the wolf guarding the chickens kinda thing).
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I have to read that book some time, Wii. But, I don't advocate "kick ass" so much, because Paul also says that "if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness." (Galatians 6:1) So, while, I would not expect our spiritual leaders, such as Hmama's ex-pastor, to ostracize her XH (although, according to Paul, it is an option), it would be incumbent upon him to "restore him". How that looks? I dunno, but I don't think standing back and doing nothing is it (except pray, which I am sure is part of it). And then to withhold assistance/friendship/fellowship to the one's who have been injured just blows me away. As a friend, he shouldn't take sides, but as a pastor, he should take the side of the injured, the one who did not sin within the marriage, not blatantly cut her off, and then allowing the process of the adulterer gaining priesthood. 
