Until he gets why the past does matter... I don't think he is going to get it.

Am I making any sense?

Regardless, it matters to you and your feelings on the matter are valid. It's not like you are trying to hold the past over his head you are just trying to overcome the past, IMO.

Are you saying your hubby is not very forthcoming with the truth? Lies by ommission? Not sure if he is telling you everything or still being someone secretative?....

M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)