R22, Thank you for responding. Thanks too for assuring me that my stating to him that it's not true that I've not wanted him for 17 years was ok. I was worried that I shouldn't have done that. It's very confusing to determine how to have NC yet still assure him that I do want to work things out. I am doing my best to ignore what he says and thinks. I know that it's all BS. I really do. I think that I've been doing well at hiding my emotions. As far him poormouthing me. It ticks me off but I know that 99% of the people who know us know the type of person I am, the things I really do do, and who's the butt in this sitch.
What about the house? Do I take L's advice? Do I agree to sell in the hopes of the house selling relieving his stress and in turn helping to saving our M? I also think that if his stress is relieved while he's gone, he might somehow relate the stress relief to his being away instead of me relieving things.
When H says that I don't want him and uses that as excuse for walking away, is it really a good idea to go dark and have virtually NC for a month? Might that make H think his warped thoughts about me not caring are being validated?
MB28, thanks so much for the response. Any advice?
