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[newmama]

H4L, I know you have safety concerns about your S spending time alone with your H. You have to look inside yourself and figure out how much of that is legitimate and how much is a control issue on your part. There are many potential benefits to your letting your H have overnight visitations, etc:

1. your H would have less time and energy for OW
2. your H would have to be a responsible father, not just doing it when he feels like it
3. your H would have to provide the meals, do the housekeeping and all the work that you do... it would help him to see everything that's involved in your job
4. you would have much less contact with your H
5. you'd be able to focus more on your S when he is there and be more present as a mother
6. you'd have the solitude and freedom to do more GAL and working on yourself

Flowmom points out very good things to consider about allowing your H to have S. I would add to make this arranged in a written agreement at the minimum- formal is better but written will hold up in court too.

ALSO do not do it based on the motivation to get him to leave OW and come back to you. Do it based on #2-6. And I agree that #6 has been true for me even though it comes with guilt.