I am in much the same boat, and am in full panic mode much of the time.

I have been asked for a D, and W is in a tailspin, even though she asked for the D. Says our marriage is dead, that she is not in love with me anymore.

Is it really possible to regain love and trust when so much has been lost?

H 51, W 46
no kids
T 22 years
M 17 years
ILBNILWY 2/10
1st D talk 6/10
partial recovery
W files D 5/11
long distance separation 8/11
moving forward on D 10/11
legal separation complete 1/2012