Had a conversation with S18 last night - it was the first time I had a chance to talk to him since I heard W told him she was moving out. Conversation went like this:
TDR: Mom told you she rented a place and is moving out? S18: Yes. TDR: This isn't what I want - it was her decision. I thought there were other things we could do to work on our marriage before this happened but she isn't interested. S18: How can you afford 2 houses? TDR: We can't really, but I am going to hang on to our house as long as I can. S18: Then why can't you tell her she can't go? TDR: She is an adult and can do what she wants. S18: Then she should pay for it. TDR: We are sorting that out now - I think she should work more to help pay for all this and she wants to be home for you guys.
TDR: As far as where you would live, you are 18 and can decide to stay wherever you want, and even D16 might be able to do the same
S18: I am not going to be moving my stuff back and forth so I am staying here.
TDR: but S12 and S11 have to go every other week to each house
S18: Why?
TDR: It is something that is court ordered and not up to them.
Just reading your sit. for the first time. My WAW will be moving out soon and seeing that you had this conversation is showing me what I have to look forward to. S-17 will probably respond likewise. D-14 is an unknown.
I like the fact your S-18 has decided to stay. No rewarding WAW - if she is going to leave then she has to live with the consequences!
