Busy week. My L emailed me the D came through. X gets to keep having the kids 50% of the time. This the guy that is going to be celebrating Father's Day with his girlfriend on vacation and won't even be seeing his kids....It's sad to me when I really enjoy and love spending time with the kids the guy that wants to spend more time with them to decrease child support costs wins out....
I'm fine though; busy doing stage crew for a play and work is doing fine. Kids are good, so it's all going to be fine eventually. I was hoping Jamie and i could do wizard of oz next year, but Mike won't allow that I'm sure....
Already I have my first question: I have play rehearsal tomorrow 3 to 7 so can't drop off the kids at the regular dropoff time we have each week. I emailed X I can drop them off at 2:30 or at 8:00 instead. No reply and it's been a couple hours. If he doesn't reply by tomorrow afternoon (even though he texts on his iphone constantly apparently it's tough for him to check my emails he says as I don't believe they are a priority). If he doesn't reply, then what should I do??? I don't want to be an a$$, but doesn't he have some responsibility to check emails periodically re: the kids?
My ex also has selective timing when reading e-mails. I would write back saying that since you did not get a response, you are not sure he will be home at 2:30, so you wll drop them off at 8:00. That will probably get a response. Also, if he has texting you can send a text asking that he check his e-mail.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
I'm glad to hear you're getting past the illness, and 'tis good to hear from you again. But I'm sorry for you and the kids that your ex has gained so much time with them. It might very well be "fair", but hardly just. Of so many fathers I hear about fighting for their kids' time, he seems the most meritless. Conniving even.
On the play, why would he have any say what activities your children participate in during your time of custody?
I've always thought that you should look at the 16 years or whatever before the D. X was almost totally uninvolved, and the typical one night a week, and every other weekend I was requesting was MORE time than he spent with them up until right before the first D hearing. And I'm shocked my poor brother is getting hosed with my legal fees. As a sahm for 10 years, just going back to work, seems like my X should have at least had to pay half or more (of the $10,000). I had a dream last night I called the judge and my X scum.
The plays are about 2 months total with rehearsal and performance time. Usually about 5 or 6 nights a week, so it would be on "his" nights too. You have to pretty much be there for all of them. She didn't do any plays this year, so I think one play every 2 years seems reasonable, but extracurricular activities take extra time/driving and he doesn't believe in them.
Oh, X did email this am re: dropoff today. He'll pick them up at 8; of course doesn't want the extra hours he could have had with them!!!
Hey, I just saw. I was out with the kids in KC yesterday and didn't get on the computer...is that progress?? lol Anyhow I can chat later if you want. My number is on the alt under info.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I just wanted to say again that I think you are sounding good. A little bit sad is normal especially after all the time you spent together. I think I told you, I cried for maybe 5-10 minutes when I knew for sure and that was it.
I do get teared up at Hallmark moments and I do apologize to the kids that things didn't work out but we are moving forward. You will too. Hope you are getting over your cold.
love ya, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
