he loves me but isn't in love with me and he doesn't think this marriage will work, wants to separate (some days he'll say yes, usually after we've had an argument), thinks too much has happened and I won't get over his A. hmmmm..
Also, he holds so much anger and resentment towards me and blameshifted all his wrongdoing onto me. I am the reason he did what he did. go figure.
This is EXACTLY how my H was during our D sitch. He DID NOT love me anymore, except as the mother of his children. He had so much resentment towards me, he didn't think he could forgive & forget. His resentment was built up b/c he felt I would reject him when he wanted to have S & this made him feel rejected & resentful.
ANYWAY, he got over it somehow. Just keep doing what you are doing & he'll realize what he's got. I always just wished my H would read & hear all the stuff I was reading during the D sitch. All of this was news to me. I never realized how much effort an M takes. H told me he shouldn't have to TELL me things. The person who was his soulmate should just KNOW everything. What a bunch of crap!!!
As much as it sucks, I honestly think you need to just keep acting "as if" & reading everything you can get your hands on. I really think he'll come around. Unfortunately, you have to do all of the work right now & be patient. NO R TALKS. Even if he seems to "come around," just keep going on like nothing is even wrong.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
