i keep stumbling upon some statistic that says that 80% of MLCers come back. and of the 20% who don't, part of that is that the LBS didn't want them back.
If the 80% is true, then what? What does that mean to you; what will you do? If instead, what Braveheart says about 5% return or restore the marriage, then what? What does that mean to you; what will you do?
Forget about statistics—I know, easier said than done. But what do you want? Are you going to make your decision based on the statistics? Do you base your desires on statistics. I wanted my husband and marriage and determined that if the odds were 1/1000, I’d be the one. If statistics are low, have you considered why? Maybe others hear they are low and give up. Maybe they are higher for DBers…or LBSs who learn Standing behaviors. Maybe not. Who cares! Choose what you are going to be based on your Self and what you want rather than basing it on what others have had.
