My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[TrentC]

Which is why you can't focus on what he is doing.

When it comes down to it, one of two things is going to happen:

1) He's going to pull his head out of wherever it is stuck and want to work things out
2) He's going to leave to chase whatever life he thinks is out there for him

If it is #1, then what are you going to do for yourself while he works out his own crap?
If it is #2, what kind of life do you want to have when he finally pulls the plug?

From a random blog post somwhere...

I was watching Babylon 5 a couple of weeks ago on the Sci-Fi Channel. Marcus, a sort of interstellar knight errant, and Commander Susan Ivnnova, career military, are talking about something and Ivanova mentions that a certain alien language, Minbari, is a beautiful language. Marcus says, "I could teach you." Ivanova begs off saying, "Oh, no, I couldn't. It would take me a year to learn." To which Marcus responds, "And how old will you be next year if you don't learn Minbari?"