I need help in the biggest way. I feel so helpless

[mrbt]

I guess you could say we both became comfortable in our marriage so that feeling wore off. I guess he thinks that being that he is in the whole ILYBINILWY, he thinks that being in a relationship with someone else will give him that thrill and excitement like he had when he was in an A.

I heard something on the radio - I think it was an interview with the author of a book titled: The Sexually Confident Wife. She had an affair and said that she learned later that it was a question of wanting INTENSITY versus INTIMACY (she finally chose intimacy and stayed married).

Intimacy is what you have in a longterm committed relationship. Intensity is what your husband is chasing but intensity can never last.