You might have to learn to detach from his bad-mouthing of you for awhile. It's disrespectful, but you and your family know it is untrue and a symptom of what's going on with him. Ignore it for now and don't dwell on his "cover story" for his own behavior. If you read enough threads on this board you will see that a lot of the husbands go around saying how awful the wives were, all women are evil in some way, on and on and on once they get in distress. You are not alone in having your reputation attacked because of this situation. It's painful, but common.
