I've noticed something with my wife and it just makes me laugh. She cannot admit any feelings for me at all. To the point it's comical.
I have been complimenting her and acknowledging positive behavior. I don't go overboard but I didn't do a good job of that in the past. Her response is very teenagerish. For instance, D9 has a fundraiser and my wife had some great ideas to help her out so I told her, "You are such a good Mom". Her response? "Well,Duh". That's how it is with every compliment. So I was joking with her and said that I wouldn't compliment her anymore. She says "No, I need a reason to say duh."
Then yesterday I had a flat tire. I called her and asked if she could bring me a can of fix a flat, which she did. We were talking last night and I told her that I really appreciated her help. She said "You would have done the same thing". I agreed and she says "So we're even." I asked "How are we even?". "Because I said so."
There's other stories where she's done stuff for me but she will deflect anything that suggests she did it because she cares for me. Is this what we talk about when we say look at the actions and not the words?
