I know that you did what you did because it felt RIGHT.. but the fact of the matter is that the people we love, people we are dealing with right now are in NOT the right state of minds!
They are effed up. They tell us what they want and how we failed them in the marriage, then when we try to show them that, they run and persecute us for it..
Fact of the matter is, that you just need to give them their space to figure things out and YOU, above all, need your space.
James, you are sooooo fragile right now. You have too many things going on in your life and your W has no regard for any of that. She has been poking and prodding you any chance she can. She will continue to unless YOU make moves.
You need to put this R on hold for now and just work on YOU.
No one is saying to leave your M or to not work on your M.. but fact of the matter is that you need to make sure that you are okay FIRST.
All of these things you are doing, which are NOT bad things, are PUSHING her away. You're making her wounds of guilt hurt and she is resenting you for that.. you look ANNOYING to her.
I'm telling you this because I made these same mistakes months ago.
I know that you feel hopeless and are so devastated that your life has turned out this way but you need to think of yourself. Your kids. Baby steps..
We are here for you. Please listen to everyone.
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
