Steady you know me too well now. That's exactly the thing, we know the issues there's just no need to dwell on them.

I have already corrected most of the flaws I know I needed to fix. I can't change whatever has been done nor can she. All we can do is make sure we don't fall into it again.

I'm further along in the repair phase than my W is. She's going to get back to me later this week on MC. She has also admitted to having problems forgiving which hinders her ability to trust. This isn't anything new, it just never applied to me before.

You all bring up good points, but Steady's explanation is spot on. We have positive steps being made here, and I hope we can keep going forward. The communication has been incredible, she just needs to sort her head out.

I'm being patient and giving her the time and space she requires. You also need to remember that I've been gone for six months and she was left with all the responsibilities. A military spouse is the hardest job there is, and she's held up very well until now. She's a bit overwhelmed, and I need to clear that up first.

Just enjoying being a dad right now.


Married 18
Me 39
W 37
D 15
D 5
Divorce Filed 8 April 2010
Beginning of Reconcile 8 Sept