It sucks to see people you love struggle and that's what the girls are seeing now.
CTH, don't let them see you struggle, by accepting where you are, and being the strong dad they need to see that money, entertainment, houses, pools, are NOT what make CTH the man he is. Those things outside of you don't get to define who CTH is, and that is what is important to them.
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I have to have food to make for them. They can't stare at an empty refrigerator.
Yes, and there is nothing wrong with that. I have been having a blast making food with and for d9, and why not? Who says you have to 'go out' for food to get entertainment.
Get creative, d9 and I do make your own pizza nights, and I have been making teryaki chicken and all sorts of stuff. I take d9 with me shopping and send her on pickup missions around the store.
There is more time baked into (no pun intended ) my R with d9 now doing these things than I could ever get just hitting a fast food place, and I can tell in how she is responding while at my home.
You can do this, and handle it, and just a small change in how you focus on these things will affect how you feel about them, which then is what your kids will pickup on and remember..
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
) my R with d9 now doing these things than I could ever get just hitting a fast food place, and I can tell in how she is responding while at my home. 