MrBond I think what he means is to not keep going over the past in MC. That happened to me. My W kept talking about past issues over an over and each time she relived it in her mind. She also kept changing to make it worse and worst.
I agree they have to find out what went tangent and what each of their issues are. But I think that only needs to be done one time.
I think tbart has identified many of his issues as well has his wives. I think what they need to do is express those in MC, then come up with something similar to the bullets listed above.
The past is in the past. I think what happens a lot here is the WAS won't find it in their heart to forgive and move forward. Too much staring into the rear-view mirror causes a crash.
Just my two cents.
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