Well, I don't know for a fact that he's pursuing OW. I do feel from what little I know that he is the pursuer, although she's right up there with him. She's enjoying the pursuit, but pretending to work on her M. I don't have proof of that, but I'm no dummy and that's what I suspect.
He doesn't have many friends outside of the M. He has a few very close friends. She has a lot of friends that she goes out drinking and partying with. He may be going out with them, or he may be really going to see this couple he mentioned to me that he was going to see. It's one of the thing he misses from our early days, that we would go out a lot. Now it's family - his kids came to live with us. It's different now.
Anyway, he was home when I got up at 5:30. Not sure when, I didn't hear him, but I did wake up at 3:30 for no reason. He didn't say anything to me. I acted as if... asked "I assume you remembered to pick up DSS20 from work last night." He just said "no." I asked if he had a good time this weekend and he said "yes, did you?" I said "yes..." if he was with OW, I would have been able to smell the guilt on him, but it wasn't there. I think he was just out with those high school friends. It's just strange, I don't know them, but they're his age, 43, and married, with a house - that they're letting a married man hang out with them to all hours, it's strange. Anyway, could be that his friends are making excuses not to see him so he's picked up on these friends and is using them to fulfill his need to be accepted in what he's doing. They have never met me, so they don't know anything other than what H is telling them. He's looking for poor babies from someone.
We made a little more small talk and then I just walked out and left for work early.
