It's so funny you ended with "sleep tight"-- I'm awake right now, PISSED!

You both have really good advice, thanks. It's nice to read right now.

Thanks, BD, for saying what I think-- all these things are fixable!

I guess I have double frustration here. I am soooo pissed at WH for, in my opinion, turning his family on me. I have always loved his family and been very intertwined with them. And now all they hear about me is all the reasons why he couldn't be with me. Coincidentally, they jive with what his mom already thought-- I should have cooked more or been more affectionate or gotten him more presents.

BARF!

Just like NM said, he has the topper. So that gets me to the second frustration-- his family ignores all of his faults. I do blame WH for that, too, because he is SUCH a smooth-talker. My WH's talent is to spin a situation so that he looks good. He's done it our whole marriage, and it was often to my benefit. But now I'm the butt of it.

So I'm hanging out with his mom again tonight, and I'm going to say something. I'm probably going to say, "Overnight I realized that WH is still blaming me a lot for the ending of the marriage. It really bothers me, and I want you to know you are only getting not even half of the story."

And yes, BD, I have to stop the communication through them. But it still bothers me that I will know he's saying these crappy things and there will be no way to defend myself. Maybe I'll say "Yes, it's good that WH and I don't communicate through you guys anymore. But I just have to say now in my defense to take everything he says with a grain of salt."

They are truly a huge part of my life. I've always really liked and depended on his family. And how I feel like they are sharing the critical eye that he has for me.

I'm so mad, I even want to confront WH in person.

I don't know. I would wait 'till after his family leaves, and I know you guys will probably suggest I shouldn't, but I am so angry. I protected him to my family, still. I made excuses for him.

This is our problem! That's what I did-- made excuses for him.

So. . . I'm truly just venting, and hopefully I can get back to sleep. Thanks!