You've been getting alot of new advice from people. Just go ahead and journal what your W has been doing and go from there. Before she used to ask you to watch tv with her. Has something changed since then?
I know you haven't been snooping and been leaving her alone for the most part. Maybe what you need to do is to stay "dim". Continue to be friendly, yet when she starts pushing the issue with checking your phone, etc. Tell her you have nothing to hide but do not appreciate her grabbing your phone and checking your logs. It's rude disrespectful. Especially when she gives half @$$ answers about her calls.
I think things are at a transitional stage with her where now she feels she has to call all or nothing. Present her with a new option. The OIN who is respectful of her needs and wants, but one who is not going to be pushed into a corner. A person who can stand on his own.
Sounds like that's what she wants. Just my 2cents.
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Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
