Some of these things will take months to workout. Somehow it has to be her that wants to represent you. I guess keep doing your thing and inviting her along. In time you'll be able to do dates. I know a couple of guys who got this far out, and in the end the wife had to prefer the husband to any single person BS situation. A quote, "my husband is so sexy, I think I'm going to have him tonite". If she has a cheering section, I guess its going to be good for them to broadcast these sentiments to the wife. So its going to take a while.
