Time for darkness.... (thread number 3)ears open

[james217]

If you feel you are being sh*tted on by your W then why keep chasing or longing for somebody that will keep sh*tting on you at this time? But we said that a while back and it was not what you liked. My husband treated me like a queen for 12 years then dumped me shortly after I got sick. You really can't compare behavior from a WAS as a "before and after". What happened before is not relevant to what is happening now with your WAS. Honestly, it sounds best if the two of you stay away from each other. You both are not well and being together won't change that.

I am sorry but you still have made it seem like it is okay for some people to approach things a certain way yet wrong when others do the same thing.

Maybe an inpatient stay would be a good idea. Until you move past the idea that nobody here is attacking you despite what happened in your past, this board will do you no good. Stomping your feet and pulling out bits and pieces of other situations and saying how hurt your feelings are really prevents you from absorbing all there is to absorb here. You said very ugly things about me but here I am. If you want to leave the board then leave. If you want to stay then stay but don't be unkind and lash out at the peole who want to see your life get better. You say you have no friends yet on this very forum there are many people that have reached out to you and that wasn't right for you either.

because I still love her. I know that on top of the hurt we've caused there's other issues we need to work out indvidually that has pretty much of us attacking and going back and forth on occasion.

i've apologized and spent several posts addressing everything else you've stated. I'm not going to keep on dwelling on that and talking about it any further.

She has been there for me through alot and I know she's going through alot of emotions and problems as well and this is not the person she used to be. I'll just have to see if she gets help or continues to say she's gonna do it but not do it and then things get out of hand or we're back to argueing about petty stuff or she's baiting me and i'm falling into it.

I think she likes th e drama. I don't. So I'm going to change it.

I've already stated how I felt about it so have you. If you feel like you haven't done anything wrong then fine.

I'm not going to have cyber typing ping pong about the same thing over and over again