Bunny, Part Two: Also, "I was very disappointed by your reaction to my offer."How condescending!
"I continue to be concerned (yeah, right.)about the degree to which your decisions are being influenced by external forces." Translation: Bunny has no mind of her own.
"I feel that you're being pressured by people who have no interest in our lives, or the lives of our children" Again, Bunny has no mind of her own.
"put the bastard through the ringer" Translation: poor, victimized me.
"It's very easy to sit on the sidelines and give extremist advice" Translation: advice friends and family give you is "extremist" because it doesn't conform to his carefully crafted plan.
"You and I and our children are the ones who will have to live through those consequences, and are the only ones who can be damaged by them." Now he's suddenly concerned with damaging life-choice consequences? That's a first!
"Friends' and families' cheerleading and "go get 'em" (translation: "Go get him.") attitudes can be comforting and even a little self-satisfying, but both of us need to carefully weigh the probable outcomes and long-term effects of blindly following outsider's well-meaning, but often over-enthusiastic guidance." Translation: "I'm afraid of you talking and listening to and Blindly Following(because you don't have a mind of your own) anyone! don't listen to people who tell you I'm just a pr!ck."
"Our own emotions on the topic can make it very difficult to separate other peoples' feedback into what's best for us and our children and what's just radical advice and empty platitudes to make us feel better; we have to continue to strive for making that differentiation."????Non-sensical pap. Meant to fluster you and make you wonder why you don't get it.
"I understand that you're concerned about being too easily swayed into a sub-optimal settlement, and are looking to others for strength," So Bunny is mindless and just being "Swayed" and needs to look to others for strength, since you obviously have no mind or inner strength of your own!
"but in the end, the decision has to be yours alone." As long as it is identical to his! "As I said above, no one else has to live with the consequences" He's suddenly a real convert to considering the consequences of decisions and actions, isn't he?
"If you continue your trend toward the extremes," How dare he! "my back will be pushed up against the wall and I'll have few options left to me" threat (but an empty threat and he knows it but is banking on you not knowing it).
"I very much want to get back on track and keep our long-term relationship from going sour." Um, a few years too late for this.
"Please let me know if you are still willing to have a rational discussion and hopefully come to a reasonable agreement." Because after all, Bunny, you are neither rational or reasonable.
Originally Posted By: SpyBunny
He didn't say what he thought was unreasonable in my counter other, just how disappointed he was with...me
Isn't this "tsk, tsk,disappointed with Bunny" how he guilted you into everything, even doubting your own convictions?....
Originally Posted By: SpyBunny
Back to wanting to hate him.
Don't hate. Pity. Ignore. Do not interact. At all. Go through lawyers. Trust me as an "outsider" who cares very much for you and about your sitch: this is a scary, scared, manipulative, desparate man who knows he is on a losing fast-track and is trying to brow-beat you into submission, which he is the proven expert in.
Stay away. Far away. Lawyer, lawyer, lawyer, please!
Again, tell him to never text or email you again. If he does, you will not read them, you will forward them to your lawyer. YOU NEED THIS BOUNDARY!
Bunny, I'm just livid at this mind-effing manipulation. I wouldn't have spent almost an hour on this - with an outsider's eye - if I wasn't.
He's losing. And he knows it. And he's despearate and scared. A very bad combination! GO DARK!
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
